Divorce & Your Dirty Laundry

Florida is a ‘right-to-dry’ state, meaning that clotheslines are generally allowed (check your covenants and restrictions).  Though you might be permitted to air your dirty laundry, you may not want to, especially in divorce.  Fortunately, Florida also has Therapeutic Divorce. Therapeutic Divorce does not mean keep getting divorced until you feel better.  The idea behind it is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. One of the amenities of Therapeutic Divorce is that the details do not go into public records.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. Therapeutic Divorce offers an alternative to courtroom drama.  Seek competent legal counsel to discuss your circumstances and your divorce options.   Read More

Divorce Sans the Drama – Therapeutic Divorce

Behind every successful man is his woman.  Behind the fall of a successful man is usually another woman.  In some cases, divorce is necessary, but it does not have to be a costly courtroom drama. Florida is a “No-Fault” divorce state, meaning that you can get divorced without having to figure out whose fault it is.  If the marriage is irretrievably broken, you do not have to declare who broke it.  Furthermore, you can cut out the courtroom drama with a Therapeutic Divorce. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. When the love is gone, it is only math. If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then it can be over and done within about a month.  Seek competent legal counsel to […] Read More

Top TV Script: The Bill of Rights

The Bill of Rights was ratified in 1791.  Who knew that two centuries later it would make for such great TV, winning Emmy’s and Golden Globe awards on shows like Law & Order, Boston Legal, and The Good Wife?  Those scripts would not have much plot without the Bill of Rights. The first ten amendments to the United States Constitution are known as the Bill of Rights.  They were proposed in 1789, and have been in force since December 15, 1791.  In honor of those rights, we celebrate today as Bill of Rights Day.  While you can enjoy your Constitutional rights every day, you can mark today by watching a television courtroom drama or try out this Bill of Rights Bingo from the Constitucion Center: http://constitutioncenter.org/media/files/Bill_of_Rights_Bingo.pdf Read More

May Day & Marriage

May of 2013 was the most popular month for marriages in St. Johns County…it was also the most popular month for divorce.  While 166 couples got married in May 2013, 89 couples dissolved their marriage that same month. Marriage is a choice; divorce might be a necessity, but you can choose how you go about it: Courtroom Drama OR Therapeutic Divorce You can choose all the nasty he-said / she-said courtroom drama drawn out over a fortune in legal fees, or you might consider Therapeutic Divorce. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. Advantages to Therapeutic Divorce include the following: You negotiate the settlement (instead of having a Judge decide it for you). No public records—because Therapeutic Divorce goes through mediation and not the courtroom, your dirty laundry remains your private matter. The process does not have to be expensive or take a long time. When the love is gone, it is only math. If both sides are ready […] Read More

Choices in Divorce

Well, you picked her, now what are you going to do?  There are choices in divorce just as there are in marriage.  Divorce can be a very long, expensive courtroom drama…but it does not have to be.  You can choose NOT to make it a blood sport, and it does not have to cost a lot or take a long time.  Therapeutic Divorce offers each side an opportunity to negotiate a deal through their own choices instead of following the decisions of a judge. When the love is gone, it is only math. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. In some cases, divorce is necessary, but it does not have to be a Kardashian epic drama.  If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete […] Read More

You Do Not Have to Go Broke to Get Divorced

You can get divorced in about three minutes.  It does not have to take long, nor does it have to be expensive. Once the love is gone, it is just math.  If everything is decided on, there is no need for a drawn-out courtroom drama.  Furthermore, Florida is a no-fault state, meaning you can get divorced if you just say the marriage is irretrievably broken. Divorce is sometimes necessary; however, you can leave the courtroom drama to television, and leave the big budget production to a film crew.     Read More

Wise Men Say: Therapeutic Divorce

Only fools rush in…divorce can take longer.  Divorce can be an epic blood sport, or it can be over and done with in about a month. Therapeutic Divorce offers unhappy couples greater involvement in the negotiations (instead of leaving it up to a Judge to decide) and keeps the proceedings out of public record.  Therapeutic Divorce is an alternative to the traditional courtroom drama.  Done through mediation, it gives both sides greater opportunity to mold the agreement. You can have a court battle if you want to, but if you are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then it can be done without dragging out legal billing.  When the love is gone, it is only math. Divorce is not just for the wicked.  Therapeutic Divorce allows both sides to continue doing what they are good at—whether it is being a good parent, a good employee, etc.—while they work out the details of a difficult situation. Read More

Entertaining Law Enforcement

Stop or I’ll shoot…those are not your Miranda Rights.  You have the right to remain silent and you have the right to an attorney…just like you have the right to own a TV where you can learn these things on cop shows.  Though arrest procedures may be common knowledge, they are not always common practice. Maybe you are in some trouble, and maybe you do not know how much trouble.  If you are handcuffed and escorted by three police officers into your house prior to being arrested, you may be unsure of how to politely suggest that these guys with guns leave before they toss your bedroom without your consent.  It could be a gray area of hospitality:  entertaining armed law enforcement who have you physically restrained.  Your hands are tied; unless you employ a butler, it is going to be difficult for you to usher these “guests” to the door. The police are there to do a job, not to step on your rights like a doormat.  Even if you are in custody, you have rights.  Entertaining law enforcement could become courtroom drama.  Seek competent legal counsel to assert your rights properly. Read More