Hate Drama? Try Therapeutic Divorce

In Florida, you can get divorced without having to figure out whose fault it is…and you do not have to make it a blood sport. Florida is a “No-Fault” divorce state.  If the marriage is irretrievably broken, you do not have to figure out who broke it.  Furthermore, you can cut out the courtroom drama with a Therapeutic Divorce. Therapeutic Divorce does not mean keep getting divorced until you feel better.  The idea behind it is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. One of the caveats of therapeutic divorce is that if the negotiations break down, none of the attorneys can continue to be used by the clients.  This eliminates any attorney incentive to keep the couple fighting for more money.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view, another […] Read More

How Much Does a Divorce Cost?

You know why divorces cost so much?  Because they are worth it!  (The humor of this joke depends on your circumstances, just as the length and cost of a divorce does.) A divorce can cost roughly $500 to $5,000 depending on your attorney, amicability, and how well prepared you are.  It can be done cheap and fast.  If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then it can be over and done within about a month.  Furthermore, Florida is a no-fault state, meaning you can get divorced if you just say the marriage is irretrievably broken. Once the love is gone, it’s only math, and lawyers can help you get through the long division.  In a personal situation, you may need separation from the emotional aspect in order to proceed with the “business” of divorce.  Lawyers remove emotion so that a problem can be resolved. Divorce is sometimes necessary; however, you can leave the courtroom drama to television, and leave the big budget production to a film crew.  Seek competent legal counsel to discuss your circumstances and your divorce options.   Read More

Divorce & Therapy

Your lawyer is NOT your therapist.  While a social professional may help you work through your feelings, your attorney removes emotion and reframes the situation into business terms so you can look at the possible choices and consequences.  That being said, Therapeutic Divorce is a legal option in Dissolution of Marriage. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. Once the love is gone, it is only math.  Divorce can be a blood sport, but it does not have to be.  Therapeutic Divorce gives the couple more control over the outcome (rather than the judge) and offers a way to avoid the courtroom drama.   Read More