Divorce Sans the Drama – Therapeutic Divorce

Behind every successful man is his woman.  Behind the fall of a successful man is usually another woman.  In some cases, divorce is necessary, but it does not have to be a costly courtroom drama. Florida is a “No-Fault” divorce state, meaning that you can get divorced without having to figure out whose fault it is.  If the marriage is irretrievably broken, you do not have to declare who broke it.  Furthermore, you can cut out the courtroom drama with a Therapeutic Divorce. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. When the love is gone, it is only math. If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then it can be over and done within about a month.  Seek competent legal counsel to […] Read More

Hate Drama? Try Therapeutic Divorce

In Florida, you can get divorced without having to figure out whose fault it is…and you do not have to make it a blood sport. Florida is a “No-Fault” divorce state.  If the marriage is irretrievably broken, you do not have to figure out who broke it.  Furthermore, you can cut out the courtroom drama with a Therapeutic Divorce. Therapeutic Divorce does not mean keep getting divorced until you feel better.  The idea behind it is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. One of the caveats of therapeutic divorce is that if the negotiations break down, none of the attorneys can continue to be used by the clients.  This eliminates any attorney incentive to keep the couple fighting for more money.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view, another […] Read More

Bullet Points of Therapeutic Divorce

If marriage is a choice, divorce might be a necessity, but you can choose how you go about it.  You can go through the traditional courtroom drama, or choose Therapeutic Divorce (which can reduce time and expense). Therapeutic Divorce does not mean keep getting divorced until you feel better.  The idea behind it is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. Here are the bullet points of advantages to Therapeutic Divorce: You negotiate the settlement (instead of having a Judge decide it for you). No public records—because Therapeutic Divorce goes through mediation and not the courtroom, your dirty laundry remains your private matter. The process does not have to be expensive or take a long time. If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then it can be over and done within about a month.  Seek competent legal counsel to discuss your circumstances and your divorce options.   Read More

Therapeutic Divorce…Believe It Or Not!

According to Ripley’s Believe It Or Not, the word ‘gift’ means ‘poison’ and ‘marriage’ in Swedish—depends on how you take it.  In Florida, we have Therapeutic Divorce, so your marriage does not have to be poison. Marriage can be difficult to take, and sometimes divorce is a necessary cure, but you do have a choice.  Therapeutic divorce offers an alternative to the traditional sense of “till death do us part.”  (It does not mean you keep getting divorced until you feel better.) Once the love is gone, it’s just math—therapeutic divorce upholds that statement.  The idea behind it is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  Therapeutic divorce is not a new concept, and there’s been a push for it in Florida. One of the caveats of therapeutic divorce is that if the negotiations break down, none of the attorneys can continue to be used by the clients.  This eliminates any attorney incentive to keep the couple fighting for more money.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not […] Read More

Bad Decisions in Horror Movies & Divorce

If you are in a horror movie, you make bad decisions—it is what you do.  In divorce, you can hide behind the chainsaws, but you do not have to.  If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then a divorce can be over and done with in about a month, and it does not have to cost a fortune…and nobody has to head for the cemetery. Marriage is a choice; divorce might be a necessity, so why not get in the running car to leave a bad situation?  Therapeutic Divorce offers that running car. Florida is a no-fault state, meaning you can get divorced if you just say the marriage is irretrievably broken.  Furthermore, you can choose to have a Therapeutic Divorce (which has nothing to do with aroma therapy and also does not mean you keep getting divorced until you feel better).  The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. […] Read More

Love & Math

When the love is gone, it is only math.  If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then a divorce can be over and done with in about a month, and it does not have to cost a fortune or the remainder of your sanity. Marriage is a choice; divorce might be a necessity, but you can choose how you go about it.  Divorce does not have to be a blood sport. Florida is a no-fault state, meaning you can get divorced if you just say the marriage is irretrievably broken.  Furthermore, you can choose to have a Therapeutic Divorce (no, that does not mean you keep getting divorced until you feel better).  The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. Advantages to Therapeutic Divorce include the following: You negotiate the settlement (instead of having a Judge decide it for you). No public records—because Therapeutic Divorce goes through mediation and not […] Read More

Choices in Divorce

Well, you picked her, now what are you going to do?  There are choices in divorce just as there are in marriage.  Divorce can be a very long, expensive courtroom drama…but it does not have to be.  You can choose NOT to make it a blood sport, and it does not have to cost a lot or take a long time.  Therapeutic Divorce offers each side an opportunity to negotiate a deal through their own choices instead of following the decisions of a judge. When the love is gone, it is only math. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. In some cases, divorce is necessary, but it does not have to be a Kardashian epic drama.  If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete […] Read More

Divorce & Therapy

Your lawyer is NOT your therapist.  While a social professional may help you work through your feelings, your attorney removes emotion and reframes the situation into business terms so you can look at the possible choices and consequences.  That being said, Therapeutic Divorce is a legal option in Dissolution of Marriage. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details, and also does not make public those details.  Because the process goes through mediation and not through the court, the dirty laundry is hampered from public view. Once the love is gone, it is only math.  Divorce can be a blood sport, but it does not have to be.  Therapeutic Divorce gives the couple more control over the outcome (rather than the judge) and offers a way to avoid the courtroom drama.   Read More