Love & Math

When the love is gone, it is only math.  If both sides are ready to sit down and take the necessary steps to complete the procedure, then a divorce can be over and done with in about a month, and it does not have to cost a fortune or the remainder of your sanity. Marriage is a choice; divorce might be a necessity, but you can choose how you go about it.  Divorce does not have to be a blood sport. Florida is a no-fault state, meaning you can get divorced if you just say the marriage is irretrievably broken.  Furthermore, you can choose to have a Therapeutic Divorce (no, that does not mean you keep getting divorced until you feel better).  The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. Advantages to Therapeutic Divorce include the following: You negotiate the settlement (instead of having a Judge decide it for you). No public records—because Therapeutic Divorce goes through mediation and not […] Read More

May Day & Marriage

May of 2013 was the most popular month for marriages in St. Johns County…it was also the most popular month for divorce.  While 166 couples got married in May 2013, 89 couples dissolved their marriage that same month. Marriage is a choice; divorce might be a necessity, but you can choose how you go about it: Courtroom Drama OR Therapeutic Divorce You can choose all the nasty he-said / she-said courtroom drama drawn out over a fortune in legal fees, or you might consider Therapeutic Divorce. The idea behind Therapeutic Divorce is to work out the details while allowing both sides to continue to be good parents, good employees or employers, good at whatever it is that they are.  It keeps the focus on the business of how best to deal with the details. Advantages to Therapeutic Divorce include the following: You negotiate the settlement (instead of having a Judge decide it for you). No public records—because Therapeutic Divorce goes through mediation and not the courtroom, your dirty laundry remains your private matter. The process does not have to be expensive or take a long time. When the love is gone, it is only math. If both sides are ready […] Read More

Rash Behavior in Divorce

Boy meets girl.  They fall in love.  They get married.  Then boy finds out that girl is sleeping with his best friend.  To get “even,” boy sleeps with girl’s best friend.  Boy wakes up with a rash. Divorce is sometimes necessary.  Once the love is gone, it’s only math, and lawyers can help you get through the long division. Division follows a pattern of steps until there are no remainders.  Quotients do not come from rash decisions.  In a personal situation, you may need separation from the emotional aspect in order to proceed with the “business” of divorce.  Lawyers remove emotion so that a problem can be resolved. You can still spend a lot of time, money, and anguish in a divorce case.  You can pay astronomical legal fees to a divorce attorney to eviscerate your spouse.  Or you may want to consider Therapeutic Divorce.   An advantage of Therapeutic Divorce is that it goes through mediation, not public records.  You sit down with your ex-spouse-to-be and hammer out a deal that everyone can agree on…you are not leaving your assets up to a judge to divide.  Thus Therapeutic Divorce is a way for the couple to have more control over […] Read More